Spankings. Time outs. Groundings. It’s time for some discipline. No more TV. No more video games. No more cell phone. We parents are quite creative with our forms of discipline.
Discipline is an important part of a child’s development. Without it, most kids would grow up spoiled or out of control. We all probably know a young girl with the princess complex. Or the young boy who rampages through everything while their parents sit by watching their cute little boy. News flash – it’s not cute! And your spoiled little princess is annoying.
Despite what some may think, discipline is not mean. In fact, it is an act of love if done consistently, appropriately, and lovingly. And I’m not talking about abuse. Abuse is never rooted in love; discipline is. The heart of discipline desires what is best. As a result, the aim of discipline is to correct what is wrong and to fix what is broken.
As our heavenly Father, God is also in the business of discipline. But how he disciplines his children and the reason for doing it can be very different from how parents discipline their kids. Sometimes we do it out of anger and frustration. God never does. Sometimes punishment is associated with our methods of discipline. It’s not a part of God’s.
Perhaps one of the clearest expressions of God’s discipline comes from the author of Hebrews. Let’s see how he put it.
“And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? It says,
“‘My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,
and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,
because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,
and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.’
“Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it (Hebrews 12:5-11).”
The first thing that catches my eye is that the entire passage begins by reminding the readers that this is a word of encouragement. Now how many parents tell their children that they should be encouraged just before they discipline them? But that’s exactly what Hebrews says. Why? How can this be encouraging?
Here’s why I think it’s hard for us to be encouraged by discipline. When it comes to human discipline, it often involves some form of punishment, such as the examples I started the article with, and usually doled out in anger. Who would be encouraged by that? No one wants to feel the sting of painful punishment when it’s rooted in seething anger.
But notice what the Lord’s discipline is rooted in. Love! Like a good parent, God does not fly off the handle when he disciplines. His discipline is not harsh. It can’t be. It’s not done out of anger; it’s done out of love.
Yes, the Hebrews passage speaks of enduring hardship, but it doesn’t say that God causes the hardship. It’s more like he uses the hardships we encounter as a way to teach us, mold us, and shape us. It’s like how Joseph in the Old Testament went through a series of hardships with his brothers, Potiphar and his wife, and the chief cupbearer. He went from nearly being killed, to being sold as a slave, to being falsely accused of a sexual assault on his master’s wife, to spending time in prison, and being forgotten for some time by a man he helped in prison. On top of all that was having to live with the memory of a loving father that he surely thought he would never see again.
God used all that Joseph went through for his good and the good of others.. Joseph himself acknowledged as much when he told the brothers who thought of killing him, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good (Genesis 50:20).” And what good came out of all this? Joseph was promoted to be second in charge of Egypt, got married and had two sons, and was reunited with his father.
As good as that was there was something else that came out if that was far more important. Joseph could have easily become embittered by all the happened to him, particularly toward his brothers who sold him into the slavery that started all his hardships in the first place. But as we see in his encounter with his brothers, Joseph had learned to have compassion and humility and he forgave them of all wrongdoing. As a result, he and his brothers were reconciled. What was broken was fixed and what was lost was found. Love, not hatred, won the day. None of that would have been possible without God’s discipline.
Does Joseph’s compassionate, forgiving attitude remind you of anyone? It does me. It reminds me of Jesus. And that’s the point of God’s discipline. As I mentioned earlier, God’s discipline is not like ours, and it would be a mistake to think of it in that way. God doesn’t spank us, put us in time out, or take something away from us that we enjoy. God uses our circumstances to teach us. It’s similar to how Paul describe the Scriptures as being “useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness (2 Timothy 3:16).” That’s what God’s discipline does. It teaches, rebukes, corrects, and trains us. As the Hebrews passage above says, “God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness.”
And therein lies the key to God’s discipline. He desires that we share in his holiness. Another way of putting that is that God’s discipline is intended to conform us into the image of his Son (Romans 8:29). Jesus was the firstborn of many sons and daughters. As God’s children, he wants us all to grow and mature and to leave behind the sins that once entangled us. Like Joseph, God’s discipline is constantly shaping our character and making us more like Jesus. In that way, we reap a “harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it (Hebrews 12:11).”
When you break it all down, God’s discipline is more evidence of his grace. We do a lot of stupid things. And when children do stupid things, parents can often get irate and lose their cool. But not God. His grace shines through as he patiently and lovingly teaches us and correct us. Through it all, we see the truth that God’s grace “teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ (Titus 2:12-13).”